How to approach a girl

Refining and conditioning are the two most important factors in becomming confident and successful with approaching women.

Its important for newcommers to the seduction game to realise that failure is your friend when you first start to pick up women. Often we believe that we cannot attempt to practice a skill we are currently learning untill we have acquired enough knowledge to be reassured that nothing will go wrong with our first attempt. Limiting beliefs such as this are the cause of procrastination and the wasting away of opportunities. Waiting around for a woman to approach you is completely counter-productive, being proactive about your approaches is how you get better at them. By all means read as much as you want, there’s plenty of invaluable information on how to seduce and attract women, but reading will not do anything for your real world success unless you implement the things you have learnt. The fastest way to learn how to approach a girl is to get out there and practice it, armed with the knowledge on how to do so.

For those who are getting started, and want to know how to pick up a girl without failure… I have news for you; Two big factors in the stages of knowing how to pick up a girl like a seduction guru are refining and conditioning. It’s only once you have got knocked back that you can  assess what you did wrong, refine your methods then jump back in the game. It’s like Rocky says “It’s not how many times you get knocked down, but how many times you get back up”. something along those lines anyway because let’s be honest… We can only guess what Sly is making out to say most of the time. The difference though between getting knocked down physically and getting knocked back by a chick is that one hurts you physically (does real damage) and the other only hurts the ego (you sissy). Once you become conditioned to the knockbacks you will lose the ego and naturally develop a “Take it or leave it” attitude that will tell women you aren’t desperate, and most likely have an abundance of women in your life and that you are someone who doesn’t put women on a pedestal.

Conditioning combined with refining is what makes the BIG difference. Without refining your methods you will simply make the same mistakes over and over and will become confused, desperate and insecure as to why things arent working out for you. I’m not saying to over analyse every approach that failed if the majority are a success because you cannot please all of the people, all of the time – and you don’t need to. What you’ll be able to do is put yourself in the correct state to be most likely to attract the majority of women. The way to do this of course is by having relaxed confidence and having a positive energy and an Alpha Male aura about you. Exuding this confidence and aura all begins in the mind and translates through speach and body language – “I think therefore i am”. Think like an Alpha Male and eventually you will become one. So stop the self-doubting, negative talk inside your head and reframe your way of thinking to: “I am a man, (grab your balls if you need to check) I am confident, I am funny, I am attractive” and soon picking up girls will no longer be a daunting task at which you have to nervously coax yourself into, but an enjoyable hobbie with no real reprocussions from failure.

I just want to add here as a last note that self talk should not be an “us vs them” attitude where you feel as if you are going to war whenever you go out there with the intention to meet women. It will reveal itself as false bravado and negative/annoying cockyness.

Until next time

Eros