My Personal Secrets on How to Talk to Women

A lot of guys are trying to find ways to talk to girls that allows them to come across as confident and attractive. It can actually be quite easy if you stop doing a few simple things that straight up don’t work.

This is how most men should be talking to women:

Quit using pick up lines. These will set you way back. Most men use pick up lines as a crutch when they’re too lazy to actually pay attention to the girl or her situation. You come across just as cool a bum on the street asking for a handout. “Spare a dollar?”  Does that make you feel like sitting down and getting to know someone?  I didn’t think so.

Quit trying to impress women with your impressive job, your BMW, or any other stupid toys in your toy chest. This is just going to backfire on you because you’re starting things off by treating her as someone you need to impress. You are going in with the belief that the girl should see you as less than her. If you grew up with a little brother or sister, you know how frustrating it can be when they try to hang out with you and your friends and impress you. Absolutely not cool.

For the same reason, don’t make a huge deal about how “beautiful” or “hot” the woman is. She probably hears it a lot. But then, I don’t need to tell you about judging books by their covers, do I?

Okay, so that’s what you should steer clear from. Here some tips to keep in mind when talking to girls.

Approach her like a friend and just have an enjoyable conversation. Try to see the girl as equal to you. A few “dating gurus” will tell you to treat her like you’re superior to the woman. I’m not one of those guys. It is easy to overdo it and look like a complete jerk. That’s not me, but it would put you in better standing than the guys that make the mistakes mentioned earlier.

If you see someone as an equal to you, there is no obsessive need to prove yourself to them. You just have a natural conversation. Yes, there’s a good chance that she’s really attractive, but that’s no reason to treat her differently.

She is a normal human after all and has dreams and fears of her own. Someone that cries and laughs. After you really get this stuff, you don’t have to worry about creeping her out ever again. Plus, the odds will be much more in your favor that she will actually feel attracted to you.

The core of the message here is to not treat her like someone better than you. If you try to approach her thinking that you have to work for her respect, you’re dead in the water before you even say hello. It shouldn’t be brain surgery to talk to women. Just keep in mind that both of you are equals and want to have fun.

If you enjoyed this article, also check out How to Approach Girls, Where to Meet Women, and What to Say to a Girl.