Dating Consciously – Poise and Confidence Are Big Hitters

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Specialist, writes… …

Here are some dating tips and insights to help you get back into the game, especially if you’re dating after divorce. In the last of our series on Dating Consciously, “

Looks Aren’t Everything,” let’s talk about the all important external part of appearance. Here are the results from a survey taken by a popular dating. Choose the most important features of a partner

• Personality 30%
• Sense of Humor 14%
• Smile 12%
• Looks 11%
• Eyes 10%
• Hair 7%
• Education 7%
• Physique 5%
• Career 3%
• Popularity 0%

Personality ranked Number 1 by a long shot!

What does that say about a person? What’s clearly established here is that it’s not a physical attribute at all, but an internal one.

Appearance is often categorized as an external representation of a person. Personality, self-confidence, an engaging attitude, warmth and authenticity are the traits that win out over Physical Appearance. So many of us are hung up on physical appearance, we get stopped before we get started.

What are characteristics of personality? Confidence. The ability to communicate openly in a easy and engaging manner. What are inherent traits of self-confidence?

1. Knowing what you want.

2. Feeling assured that what you want is within your reach.

3. Knowing you’re worthy of what you want.

4. Under most circumstances you remain non-plussed.

What I’m pointing to is the non-physical aspects of ‘Personality’. An engaging personality has little to do with physical appearance. Many people I know getting back into the dating game get stopped with the externals of the game.

The internal dialog stops you from ever getting back into circulation: “I’m no longer a spring chicken,”"I can’t compete with the hotties,”"The singles scene seems so superficial.”

Putting your best foot forward, being ready to shine, always having a ready, genuine smile, are the winners of the day. You can meet Mr. or Ms. Right in the grocery store, at church, on a walk, anywhere. Don’t limit yourself by what others are saying.

From the perspective of a Law of Attraction Coach, the essence of what you emanate is attracted or drawn right back to you. If that’s so, (and it IS) doesn’t it makes sense to get dressed with a smile before you go out of the house? It becomes a matter of practicing the traits of self-confidence; being clear about what you want, the ability to have it, knowing your worthy of what you want, and being calmly expectant that the timing is all in perfect order.

“To be in the Dating Consciously mode, you need to ENERGETICALLY dress for success”.

To win the dating game, you want to remember it’s your choice. So choose it to be fun.

Why not write a little summary of an after-the-fact successful date. Write as though the date already happened and you’re really pleased with the outcome. If you don’t have any dating prospects, script a pleasant outcome from a trip to the library or coffee shop. You’re creating your entire life by your beliefs and your thoughts, so why not get creative and deliberate about it. You might be pleasantly surprised.

Your enjoyment of life is directly related to how you perceive every event, situation or outcome. It’s not always easy to see that our interpretation of an event is what makes it good or bad. Empower yourself by taking 100% responsibility for your joy and self-expression. Nobody else has the power to make you feel bad or good, for that matter. It’s always an inside job.

Remember, dating is a game. Relationships are a game. Games are meant to be fun and a win-win for everyone! And remember to enjoy the journey.