Deliberate Dating, Mature and Conscious Dating

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction RelationshipExpert, writes… …

Lots of people get back into the dating game with trepidation. In the first installment of Dating Consciously, the dating advice I shared was I asked … “What if I could show you how to clarify your objectives before you wade through the muck and mire of the dating scene”? I also said that “Your thoughts create your reality and if that’s so, wouldn’t you like to know what’s keeping you from having fun and success in dating?”

In Part Two, I’ll go more deeply into the aspects of The Game that’s supposed to be fun with no losers. Play with Passion and Purpose. Dating is a game you can re-write the rules at any time. To play the Dating Consciously game, you need to know that:

1. You are playing a game

2. You willingly remember that it’s going to be fun (because you created it as a game for that purpose), and

3. There are only winners

Remeber when you played tag or hide and seek? You could play for hours and hours. Simple, and sheer innocence. Try to access that innocence just for a moment right now.

Where did it go? In the previous paragraph notice how quickly it returned – if just for a moment – but it did return! You create that kind of ease and joy by simply remember it into being. You pretend it into existence, you play it into reality for the sake of playing. And guess what? Your energy shifts so quickly to that light and high vibration, that unless you negate it with old patterns, you become very attractive. You become a magnet to your desires.

The 2 Biggest Stoppers to Dating Consciously

1. Fear of failure/rejection

2. Fear of looking bad/not enough

1. Fear of failuse is a common experience Try on innocence and play full out. Just try it and see how different it feels. Nobody is out to take something from you that you’re not willing to give.] Certainly, there may be different expectations from your date. There’s nothing wrong with that. Simply and clear communication can handle that. Believe me, you’re going to have different expections and points of compatibility. If you didn’t, you’d get awfully bored of that person in a very short period of time. If you decide that you only wanted one play date, so be it. There’s no inherent rejection involved. It’s just a choice on how you or he/she prefers to spend their time. It’s just a choice not a rejection.

2. Do you feel ‘less than’?

Your internal dialog is “I’m not thin enough”, “I’m not rich enough”, you know those stories.. Consider that at the core, everyone has that ancient internal conversation, too. Most everyone at times feels low in self-confidence. You’re not alone here.

Do your best to remain present and on your purpose is to have fun. Think of it as an exploration. “What’s something new can I learn about myself or my date?” Now you’ve just paved an energetic pathway for your date.

Playing a game is a very differnt approach to dating. Play with passion, play full out. Purpose means deliberating intending what you’re up to. The bottom line is HAVE FUN.

The vibration of FUN is one of the highest around. Laugh and have fun. You’ll become a magnet for fun people and if you keep practicing that, eventually you’ll attract the perfect fun mate.

You can learn these tools and more with Relationship Coaching. Dating, like life, if approached as a fun game where there are no losers goes much more smoothly for everyone.

Are You Ready To Get Back Into the Dating Game?

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor, writes… …

Are you tired of wading through one date after another to find Mr. or Ms. Right? If you’re dating after divorce and it’s time to get back into the mainstream again, Then you’re probably not dating just for the fun of it. In other words, it’s not a sport or a hobby for you. Most likely you’re looking for some meaningful contact with another like-minded individual. Someone with whom you can share good conversation, fun activities and match up on a number of similar interests.

Whether you’ve just ended a long term relationship, are seeking your soulmate, or are tired of browsing the on-line dating sites, it’s time you consider dating consciously.

What if I could show you how to clarify your objectives and intentions before you wade through the muck and mire of the dating scene

Your thoughts create your reality – so wouldn’t you like to know what’s really behind those pesky thoughts that keep you going through dates like the proverbial ‘revolving door’?

How about getting to the meat of the issue, creating a fun game around dating and then get the outcome you’re after — to find a really fun and loving relationship.

Does any of this sound good to you?

Of course it does!

I’ve encapsulated my tried and true Law of Attraction approach of winning the dating game. It’s called Dating Consciously. Just for the fun of it I’ve designed a 3 Part Series on Dating Consciously designed to get you moving in the higher vibration of getting what you really want, whether that’s having fun dating or attracting a fun and loving relationship.

In the first of this Dating Consciously Series I’d like to address “The Game” portion of The Dating Game. Dating is a GAME!

First, let’s define the word GAME…

1. Game:An amusement or pastime.

2. Game: An activity where you compete involving skill, chance, or endurance on the part of two or more persons who play according to a set of rules, usually for their own amusement or for that of spectators.

The second definition sums up the way most of us feel about dating.

But, if it’s not fun, why do it?

For many, the second definition kills the joy and has you sitting on the sofa Saturday nights. Those elements are:

Competitive activity, Skill, Chance, Endurance and Rules. These are definite fun-busters!

Interestingly enough, these are the things to AVOID when dating.

FIVE Things To DO When Dating

1. Play. Though this may sound simple, I’ll bet you don’t approach dating as play. Remember when you were the innocent kid playing in the mud? How sublime was that? No place to go, nothing to prove. Just pure fun! If your date is the somber type, make it your priority to have fun. Make it your game to find fun. You don’t have to see them again if they’re no fun.

2. Laugh. A cousin of play, laughter is the most infectious way to spread joy. Before going on any date, especially a first date, remind yourself that you will deliberately find ways to feel good and laugh. You’re not fully dressed unless you wear a smile. Just smile for no reason.

3. Listen. This is such an important way to connect with your date. Deep listening is when you shut off the voices in your head and tune in to what the person across the table is saying. Granted, your critical voice may be wanting to sound off for a variety of reasons. You don’t like the way he slurps his soup. She constantly plays with her hair. Things like that can be distractions. Just notice yourself being distracted and bring yourself back. Again, you don’t have to see them again. Being present is important and will go a long way in building intimacy later on. Adopt this quality in your long term relationships by practicing now. By the way, you don’t have to use listening just in the dating world

4. Eye Contact. Don’t just make eye contact and nod your head. Practice deep listening while making eye contact. This is a wonderful display of your own generosity. And I can promise you, your generosity will come back to you.

5. Communicate. When it’s your time to talk, be clear and be heard. As you have given your attention to your date, expect the same. You haven’t interrupted him or her while he or she has been talking. If an interruption occurs, ask for the same manners. You can be polite and kind about this without turning it into a problem. Ask for what you want and chances are, you’ll get it. Feeling confident in your request takes alot of pressure off your date. You leave them firmly knowing what you prefer.

Whether you’re in your 20′s or 70′s, dating – just like life – if approached as a fun game, where there are no losers, goes much more smoothly for everyone.

First, let’s define the word GAME…

1. Game:An amusement or pastime.

2. Game: A competitive activity involving skill, chance, or endurance on the part of two or more persons who play according to a set of rules, usually for their own amusement or for that of spectators.

The second definition sums up the way most of us feel about dating.

But, if it’s not fun, something is out of alignment.

For many, the latter definition contains elements that take the FUN right out of the pursuit of dating. Those elements are:

Competitive activity, Skill, Chance, Endurance and Rules. These are definite fun-busters!

Interestingly enough, these are the things to AVOID when dating.

FIVE Dating Do’s

1. Play. Simple as it may seem, most people don’t think of dating as play. Remember when you were the innocent kid playing in the mud? How sublime was that? No place to go, nothing to prove. Just pure fun! If your date is the somber type, make it your priority to have fun. Make it your game to find fun. You don’t have to see them again if they aren’t playful.

2. Laugh. A cousin of play, laughter is very contagious. Before going on any date, especially a first date, remind yourself that you will deliberately find ways to feel good and laugh. Don’t go out without your smile. Just smile for no reason.

3. Listen. This is such an important way to connect with your date. Deep listening is when you shut off the voices in your head and tune in to what the person across the table is saying. Granted, your critical voice may be wanting to sound off for a variety of reasons. She’s got a nervous giggle. He makes noise when he eats. Things like that can be distractions. Just notice yourself being distracted and bring yourself back. Don’t worry, you never have to go on a second date. This is an important practice, however, and it is an intimacy builder. Adopt this quality in your long term relationships by practicing now. By the way, you don’t have to use listening just in the dating world

4. Eye Contact. Don’t just make eye contact and nod your head. Practice deep listening while making eye contact. This is a wonderful display of your own generosity. And I can promise you, your generosity will come back to you.

5. Communicate. When it’s your turn to share, confidently offer your ideas. Expect the same attention. Ask for the same attention, if you’re not getting it. If an interruption occurs, ask for the same manners. You can be polite and kind about this without turning it into a problem. Ask for what you want and chances are, you’ll get it. Feeling confident in your request takes alot of pressure off your date. You leave them firmly knowing what you prefer.

It doesn’t matter if your 25 or 75, dating – just like life – if approached as a fun game, where there are no losers, goes much more smoothly for everyone.

Dating Tips For Shy Guys

If you are shy and having a hard time with dating there are several dating tips for shy guys that can help you come out of your shell and date, while having a great time.

Being shy does not always have to be a bad thing. This can mean you do not have to have the spotlight or be the center of attention to feel comfortable. Shyness can actually be a good trait and one you can use to your advantage.

If you are shy, you should capitalize on it. When a female is talking to you, listen to her and make sure you understand what she is saying. You do not want to be too quiet however.

Awkward silence can destroy a date so you have to be sure that you keep the conversation going at least to rid the silence. Making sure that you talk at appropriate times and in the correct way can help the conversation along but limit what you have to say.

If you have a hard time talking to women, you can keep yourself informed on the latest current events. This is a great way to strike up a conversation and seem interesting.

Let a woman tell you about some particular things going on so that you do not seem like a no it all. Understand that it’s really not possible to know everything that is going on all the time in current events. So do the best you can and stay away from topics you don’t know much about.

Women can see a whole right through you if you are trying to be someone your not. So do yourself a favor and try not to force yourself to be outgoing. Pushing yourself outside of your limits a bit is not a bad thing, in fact can help you to become not as shy, but do it at a moderate rate.

So if you are a shy guy, there are many dating tips for shy guys that can help you achieve the dating lifestyle you want.

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