Your Most Burning Questions about Finding Love

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Specialist, writes… …

I’m frequently asked how to find love when there’s been so much failure in the past. I thought I’d share some of the frequently asked questions and the Universal Law of Attraction model answer.

1. I’m in my mid-40′s. I’m just about to give up on love. If I haven’t met a good one by now, will it ever happen?

If you can desire it, you can achieve it. Find out what belief you have, what story you’re telling yourself that’s not true and make it your business to shift that belief.

Consider the Universe is a gigantic intention fulfillment machine. When you ask, and it’s not coming, you have a dominant belief or vibration about it being difficult. You have a lingering belief in not being worthy, or that something else is wrong with you. Look for whatever that limiting belief is and work with a coach to soften and shift that belief. Read how to bridge a belief in the Resources section on www.nanettegeiger.com.

2. How do I bring in the certainty in receiving? That is an excellent question! And I believe that it is the foundational piece that most of us need to work on. How do you work on the positive expectancy, the believing, knowing, the certainty? One of the very best ways is to work with the ‘feeling state’ as much as possible. Every day, several times per day.

Play with the energy of make believe and feel it as real. How will you feel when… … the love of your life comes to stay … you plan a fun weekend getaway for her … you hold hands and tell jokes … you sing songs in the car on a road trip etc., etc. You get the idea. This will move your vibration into the state of allowing because you’re acting AS-IF it’s already so.

Dating Consciously – Poise and Confidence Are Big Hitters

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Specialist, writes… …

Here are some dating tips and insights to help you get back into the game, especially if you’re dating after divorce. In the last of our series on Dating Consciously, “

Looks Aren’t Everything,” let’s talk about the all important external part of appearance. Here are the results from a survey taken by a popular dating. Choose the most important features of a partner

• Personality 30%
• Sense of Humor 14%
• Smile 12%
• Looks 11%
• Eyes 10%
• Hair 7%
• Education 7%
• Physique 5%
• Career 3%
• Popularity 0%

Personality ranked Number 1 by a long shot!

What does that say about a person? What’s clearly established here is that it’s not a physical attribute at all, but an internal one.

Appearance is often categorized as an external representation of a person. Personality, self-confidence, an engaging attitude, warmth and authenticity are the traits that win out over Physical Appearance. So many of us are hung up on physical appearance, we get stopped before we get started.

What are characteristics of personality? Confidence. The ability to communicate openly in a easy and engaging manner. What are inherent traits of self-confidence?

1. Knowing what you want.

2. Feeling assured that what you want is within your reach.

3. Knowing you’re worthy of what you want.

4. Under most circumstances you remain non-plussed.

What I’m pointing to is the non-physical aspects of ‘Personality’. An engaging personality has little to do with physical appearance. Many people I know getting back into the dating game get stopped with the externals of the game.

The internal dialog stops you from ever getting back into circulation: “I’m no longer a spring chicken,”"I can’t compete with the hotties,”"The singles scene seems so superficial.”

Putting your best foot forward, being ready to shine, always having a ready, genuine smile, are the winners of the day. You can meet Mr. or Ms. Right in the grocery store, at church, on a walk, anywhere. Don’t limit yourself by what others are saying.

From the perspective of a Law of Attraction Coach, the essence of what you emanate is attracted or drawn right back to you. If that’s so, (and it IS) doesn’t it makes sense to get dressed with a smile before you go out of the house? It becomes a matter of practicing the traits of self-confidence; being clear about what you want, the ability to have it, knowing your worthy of what you want, and being calmly expectant that the timing is all in perfect order.

“To be in the Dating Consciously mode, you need to ENERGETICALLY dress for success”.

To win the dating game, you want to remember it’s your choice. So choose it to be fun.

Why not write a little summary of an after-the-fact successful date. Write as though the date already happened and you’re really pleased with the outcome. If you don’t have any dating prospects, script a pleasant outcome from a trip to the library or coffee shop. You’re creating your entire life by your beliefs and your thoughts, so why not get creative and deliberate about it. You might be pleasantly surprised.

Your enjoyment of life is directly related to how you perceive every event, situation or outcome. It’s not always easy to see that our interpretation of an event is what makes it good or bad. Empower yourself by taking 100% responsibility for your joy and self-expression. Nobody else has the power to make you feel bad or good, for that matter. It’s always an inside job.

Remember, dating is a game. Relationships are a game. Games are meant to be fun and a win-win for everyone! And remember to enjoy the journey.

 

Deliberate Dating, Mature and Conscious Dating

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction RelationshipExpert, writes… …

Lots of people get back into the dating game with trepidation. In the first installment of Dating Consciously, the dating advice I shared was I asked … “What if I could show you how to clarify your objectives before you wade through the muck and mire of the dating scene”? I also said that “Your thoughts create your reality and if that’s so, wouldn’t you like to know what’s keeping you from having fun and success in dating?”

In Part Two, I’ll go more deeply into the aspects of The Game that’s supposed to be fun with no losers. Play with Passion and Purpose. Dating is a game you can re-write the rules at any time. To play the Dating Consciously game, you need to know that:

1. You are playing a game

2. You willingly remember that it’s going to be fun (because you created it as a game for that purpose), and

3. There are only winners

Remeber when you played tag or hide and seek? You could play for hours and hours. Simple, and sheer innocence. Try to access that innocence just for a moment right now.

Where did it go? In the previous paragraph notice how quickly it returned – if just for a moment – but it did return! You create that kind of ease and joy by simply remember it into being. You pretend it into existence, you play it into reality for the sake of playing. And guess what? Your energy shifts so quickly to that light and high vibration, that unless you negate it with old patterns, you become very attractive. You become a magnet to your desires.

The 2 Biggest Stoppers to Dating Consciously

1. Fear of failure/rejection

2. Fear of looking bad/not enough

1. Fear of failuse is a common experience Try on innocence and play full out. Just try it and see how different it feels. Nobody is out to take something from you that you’re not willing to give.] Certainly, there may be different expectations from your date. There’s nothing wrong with that. Simply and clear communication can handle that. Believe me, you’re going to have different expections and points of compatibility. If you didn’t, you’d get awfully bored of that person in a very short period of time. If you decide that you only wanted one play date, so be it. There’s no inherent rejection involved. It’s just a choice on how you or he/she prefers to spend their time. It’s just a choice not a rejection.

2. Do you feel ‘less than’?

Your internal dialog is “I’m not thin enough”, “I’m not rich enough”, you know those stories.. Consider that at the core, everyone has that ancient internal conversation, too. Most everyone at times feels low in self-confidence. You’re not alone here.

Do your best to remain present and on your purpose is to have fun. Think of it as an exploration. “What’s something new can I learn about myself or my date?” Now you’ve just paved an energetic pathway for your date.

Playing a game is a very differnt approach to dating. Play with passion, play full out. Purpose means deliberating intending what you’re up to. The bottom line is HAVE FUN.

The vibration of FUN is one of the highest around. Laugh and have fun. You’ll become a magnet for fun people and if you keep practicing that, eventually you’ll attract the perfect fun mate.

You can learn these tools and more with Relationship Coaching. Dating, like life, if approached as a fun game where there are no losers goes much more smoothly for everyone.