Eight Practical Tactics for Talking to Girls
September 4, 2009 by amabaddate
Filed under dating tips
Are you ready to really increase your dating options by learning to speak to more women and even ask for dates with them? You may be finding out that initiating conversations with girls is the only way to give yourself the experience which you really need to get what you want in your dating life. So what are the most effective ways to speak to women and truly get them interested so that you can get more dates? Well, you may be learning that you are not getting the results you want when it comes to communicating with women, but don’t sweat it because you are about to read the eight most practical tips for doing so.
First, you need to quite worrying in regards to what women feel about you and decide what you need instead. It is a waste of effort and a self-esteem killer to ponder everything a girl says and does trying to figure out if she wants to date you. So what? Decide what you desire and go get it. Once you do, you will learn that most women are attracted to this type of confidence and they will be much more likely to date you.
The second thing is to talk to everyone, including girls you would not want to date and even men whom you see in public. If you wait to initiate conversations only when you see a women you are truly attracted to, you can be assured that the ‘all or nothing thinking’ is going to reduce you to a realsneaker-breath. However, if you initiate conversations with everyone you run into you’ll keep your conversation skills up to par and you are certain to be ready when your ideal women comes along.
Third, concentrate on asking her questions and getting her to talk about something which she likes to talk about. You see, people are more interested in you if you are interested in who they are than if you are attempting to be interesting to them. In addition, getting her to talk about what she likes as opposed to talking about herself will help her to relax. After all, if you are a stranger to her it is not a good idea to get too personal right away.
Fourth, tell a story and make it interesting and even humorous. Everyone loves stories and they LOVE to laugh and if you have one ready you can be for sure that she is going to be interested in it. Just make certain that you have broken the ice a bit first and that the story you tell has something to do with what you are already discussing. You can have a few stories memorized in advance and make a transition like: “Hey, that reminds me of…” Then tell the story with excitement and watch the magic.
Fifth, get close to her and show her that you are confident with being close to her. This means that you make physical contact from the getgo, like a light brush on the arm as you are speaking about something. This might seem somewhat uncomfortable and you might want to attempt it with some people you already know first. However, touch is a sure fire indicator of interest and a good way to get people’s attention.
Sixth, laugh at her jokes and be enthusiastic about what she is speaking to you about. This is best achieved by body language as opposed to words and will come off more genuine than if you merely said it. What you must understand in relation to women is that they are more feeling oriented than we are and will respond to you showing them a good degree of excitement. This will also persuade them to talk more and will help you both to relax.
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Seventh, be a the alpha male and let her worry about what she thinks of it. This does not mean that you are inconsiderate, it means that you show your power as the alpha male. Women are much quicker to overlook a guys ‘imperfections’ if he can show her that he is ok with them. Many men make the mistake of being ‘nice’ and bending over backwards to please a woman. It is better to demonstrate to her that you are a bold man who can protect her when the times comes.
Finally, if you are interested in her then ask for the next meeting instead of the phone number. Think about it, you just met her this woman and you know that you want to see her again. Why bother with the number when you can just ask her out on the date? Believe me, either way she is going to see that you are attracted to her so you might as well let her see that you are bold enough to go after what you want. Again, boldness and definiteness of decision is a thing which girls find good in a man. Once you have a date set, ask for her digits so that you can get a hold of her in case something changes.
If you commit to practicing these eight techniques one by one until you get them down you will earn plenty more options when it comes to dating. Then you can be with the women who you really want to as opposed to having to stand around and accept what you can get. Good luck.
Quick Review of David DeAngelo’s Double Your Dating Ebook
August 11, 2009 by amabaddate
Filed under dating tips
For the men reading, and who have heard of this ebook, Double Your Dating, here’s a short review of the contents of the book that I found interesting so you can decide if it’s worth your time and effort!
David DeAngelo’s book covers a lot of topics, but the ones I found most interesting were:
- being yourself
- differences between the sexes
- dispelling myths and misconceptions
Should you just being yourself?
You need to be the best version of yourself, as David stresses that being just yourself is not enough. It is important that a lot of guys first learn how to be interesting to women, because when they are “just being themselves” they fail at getting women. In order to be successful, you need to stop being yourself for the time being so you learn how to become successful with women, then mould this into your own personality eventually!
What are some of the differences between the sexes and their roles?
David DeAngelo does a great job at explaining the difference between guys and girls, and he also tells you that a lot of men in our modern world are confused about the roles they should play in terms of gender types. In our society, a lot of guys do not know what to do, because they are all confused having been brainwashed by the media. In order to get women, some guys just think they need to be nice guys or something. That’s where the problems begin. Girls and women in general like men who demonstrate characteristics of a man. I find it funny and sad that a lot of guys are confused, and just act like women. This is probably a good reason why some men do not get women, because the guy himself is acting like a woman!
Misconceptions dispelled
Society has given the impression to men that in order to get women they need to be either, tall, handsome, rich or powerful. This is not true at all. This is because having these qualities all serve to present to the women that a guy with this things have a higher social value. To get the high social status, you do not need to have all the material things that society says you need. David teaches you how to get these qualities as part of your personality so you are able to get women without being a rockstar!
My conclusion
This was just a quick review of David DeAngelo’s book, Double Your Dating. I enjoyed it thoroughly and I have provided a full and comprehensive review of it here: Double Your Dating David
