Remember seeing a super hella hot girl that you were just dying
to say hi to except you never did because some tiny voice in
ur head was pretty good at talking you out of it?

I sure do. It seems there is a weird alter personality we’ve got
in our brains that takes control the moment we’re about to do
something we really WANT to do.

No matter how much you want to walk over and say hi to the girl,
you feel absolutely 100% PARALYZED and can’t actually do it.

It’s as if some hidden force has taken over your body and mind.

And its holding you back!

You try to fight the force in your head, however you can’t seem to
set yourself free from this silent force.

Every single one of us has experienced this nonsense. .

At first, when I started going out, I’d find myself at a bar, seeing
everybody else have fun, I just couldn’t figure out how to be as cool
and talkative as these people were.

I didn’t have the first clue as to what to say if I walked over and actually talked
to a group of girls.

I’d be like a wallflower, watching dudes going up to girls & just start
chatting with them, it seemed they were in a secret society of men
that developed this unbelievable approaching skill. I certainly
wasn’t in that society.

Deep down inside, I knew that was totally wrong. These guys had the
exact same physical biology as I did, I mean, our brains are almost
exactly the same.

I finally came to the conclusion that the only difference between me and
the guys in this supposed secret society was that they were THINKING
DIFFERENT THOUGHTS than I was when they approched a girl.

There is nothing more to it!

They thought differently than I did, their mindset made it possible
for them to break through that invisible force and go talk to the girl
they liked.

One other key I figured out was knowing what you’re gonna say to her
BEFORE I walked up.

For a few months, I just sat back and watched how these guys worked.

The funny thing is that the lines these dudes were using weren’t
even close to being secret or special. They said things like:

“Hi there, how are you tonight?”

I couldn’t believe this crap worked with girls, but it really did.
But it wasn’t because of the words….More on this in a second.

“What have you been up to tonight?”

I mean, this isn’t any different than the 1st one. I thought
to myself at how boring these guys lines were. This was the best these
players could do?

Then it hit me……………….

I was looking for a more complicated solution than I needed.

These guys weren’t even good looking, but they still were
successful, and here I was looking for some other secret to show me how
to fix my problem.

The solution was right in front of me the whole time!!!!

Once these guys approached a girl, all they did was start chatting about
small things, after a few minutes everyone would be laughing & having
a fun time.

I was searching for this exact solution, it just took me a really
long time to get it sorted out…

I just had to go over to these girls and bring them a good time!

I know, it sounds like an over-simplification, but thats really all
these chicks want when they go out……

FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The secret was that it wasn’t at all the fun that allowed these dudes to
get over their fear of approaching girls………….

It was the BELIEF that they were going to be fun when they got there.

Holy Cow.

I know the thought in your head right now….I know this seems so easy but it really
ain’t easy.

This is exactly why I’m showing you a simple, 5 step tactic to get over your
own fear of approaching women. This is a really easy process that
any guy can use to start a conversation with a hot girl. It will
work in any situation. For a more serious and step by step explanation
on how to lose your fear of approaching women click here to see this
site, its really cool.

Lets roll?

Secret Approach Part ONE- Always Follow the 3 Second Rule……

The second you see that hot girl, you have less than 3
tiny seconds until that voice in ur mind tries to talk you out of it.

When you wait too long to approach her, that voice in your head seizes
control and you find yourself totally paralyzed.

You don’t want this invisible bastard of a man to take over……

The moment you spot a hot chick, just walk over and talk to her as well
as her friends. You’re probably saying to yourself, “I need some time to
think of something to say”. Wrong, so wrong. Whats happening is
that your mind gets caught up in the anxiety of the moment, & the fear
takes over and stops you.

So just go up to her. As long as you have a bit of confidence & a good
opening line, everything will be money. Here’s how to get them both.

SECRET APPROACH PART TWO- Control Your Body Language!

Once you take a step in the direction of the girl, push your chest
out & shoulders back. Raise ur chin so that you are almost
looking down your nose a bit. It will probably seem awkward at 1st,
but this is just because you aren’t used to doing it.

Once you adjust your posture, ur confidence totally moves up a few points.

Psychologists have proved this becasue emotional states in our mind are
directly linked to physical states in our body. Don’t believe me, try to
smile and think bad thoughts at the same time….Its really hard isn’t it?

Let’s move the eff on……

Secret APPROACH PART THREE- Setting the Limit…

I want you to feel completely safe when you approach a girl. The thought
of rejection or that you could look like a fool in front of them is
what actually causes most of your fear.

If you set a limit on how long you’re gonna talk to
the girls, you’ll be able to lessen ur anxiety level and relax.
This projects a much better “vibe”.

To do this, just make sure the 1st thing you say to them is:

“I was just about to leave, but…”

or

“I was on my way to meet a friend, but…”

All these lines do is give a girl a context for you approaching them.
Girls are always gonna wanna know the answer to the
question “Why is this guy talking to me?”

These lines also tells them that you have someplace else to go,
which causes u to be less likely to freak out when you start the talk.

Try these tactics and increase your confidence.

Next you just need……..

SECRET APPROACH PART FOUR- How To Open The Conversation…….

This opening line is absolutely priceless, I guarantee it works almost
100% of the time. It doesn’t hurt, really simple to remember and erases the
need to come up with something clever to say.

Drumroll please…….

The magic opening phrase is:

“I just had to let u know that u have a really nice…..energy about
you. My name is Bobby”

When you introduce yourself, she’ll give you her name, and then all
you must do is ask her a funny question about wherever it is
that you find yourself in.

As an example, in a Bloomingdale’s store, you could say: “Hmmmmm, I see
you came here to shop that magnetic strip off your mastercard?”

If you’re at the bar, just say, “I bet you came here to recruit
people for your church, right?”

There’s no need to be hella clever with these lines. It really isn’t
necessary.

Just get a little laugh so that you break her
tension and show her that you’re a cool guy.

Because you want to reach to the final step fast…….

SECRET APPROACH PART FIVE- Close her & make an easy exit…..

Your goal when you approach is to get the girl invested in the
interaction so that she has a bit to lose if she doesn’t talk to
you again.

This will completely prevent the flaking that a lot of girls do!

This tactic almost never fails bit you do need to practice it a bit to get
it down pat.

I believe the best way is to discover a thing you have in common
that the girl is interested in, and then promise a sort of payoff
related to it.

Here’s what it would look like. Pretend all of this happens at a Super Target
she tells you she’d getting the new “Killers” album. Just say it to her
something like:

“OMG, I totally have an awesome video of them at Lollapalooza. Its happened to me
on my phone, but erased it. Give me ur number & if we meet up again
I’ll show it to you. You would absolutely love it!”

If you have her put her number in ur phone, and call her right there so
she can add your name in her phone, this will avoid her seeing a number
she doesn’t really know later on and she’ll be more likely to answer.

Bam Bam Bam……Done and Done. If you really want to get rid of your
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Usually, us men are too nervous even to approach a woman due
to the high amount of uncertainty involved in the act. If you
get extremely anxious when you approach girls, there happens to be a
step by step system that will cure you in about 30 days.
You can find that system by clicking here.

Anyways….Most of us are total weaklings. Think of the
thoughts in ur head when you want to go up to a girl?

“I’m probably not what she wants”
“What if she has a boyfriend?”
“IS she gonna be attracted to me?”
“She is probably way too busy to talk to me.”
“Will this girl yell at me if I say hello?”

I know there’s about 4000 more issues that go through ur
head when you get ready to approach a new girl.

If you tend to get nervous or totally freak out when you try to approach her,
it’s due to one silly little thing:

UNCERTAINTY.

U don’t really know how the girl you wanna meet is gonna respond
and you get scared because the outcome MIGHT be negative!

Enough of this wuss behavior! You will never have to be afraid
about a bad reaction again because I have the solution.

The trick is so simple, ANYONE can use it! Its even a one hundred percent
fear free trick.

Its Called the Secret Eye COntact Opener and we found this technique
at http://www.destroyapproachanxiety.com

++++The Super Secret Eye Contact Opener++++

Obviously, making eye contact is important, but something cool
happens the moment you catch eyes with another person.  You become
COMPELLED to respond to them in some form. With women, you can use
eye contact to see if she is up for meeting u.Really, in a sense,
you can use it to get her to open or approach you!

This is how its gonna go down………

Whenevre you spot a girl you wanna to meet, LOCK ur eyes on
her!!! I’m not joking, just look into her eyes, even if she’s not looking
at you.

You see, when people are out and about, they’ll look around
so that they’re aware of their surroundings. This is an unconscious thing
& everybody does it. Soon, the chick ur locking onto will look around
to scan her surroundings to make sure she won’t be hit by a bus.

Now,when she gets to you, her eyes will invariably meet yours, &
you two will be locked in eye contact.

The moment this happens, just SMILE at the girl.

If she smiles back at you, guess what?She is comfortable with you meeting her. 
But if the girl does not catch your eye, just go on to the next girl you think is hot.

Ok, when the girl flashes you a smile back, say “Hey!” If she replys, you are so in! 
Just transition into your opening line. You’ve got one of those things, right?

I mostly use this technique in low energy situations, like grocery
stores, coffee shops, health clubs, etc. Also it can work just as good in
bars (if the light is high enough so she can actually SEE you!).

Most of the time, right after u smile, the chick herself will actually
say “Hi!” before you say anything at all. When this happens, the rest
is easy.

When you go out this weekend, do this to every girl you want to meet. 
just.I swear to you, you’ll
be amazed by the results. If you’d really like to destroy your fear of meeting
and approaching women forever you really should check out this
Destroy Your Approach Anxiety Website.

But then you notice that fear deep down in your stomach.

U realize that even if you had balls and went for it, you wouldn’t have a clue what to say to the girl. You feel so nervous and dumb that even you would totally shoot yourself down if you were the girl. Because of this, you get so shy and don’t even go up to her to say hi, you just walk away.

Does this situation sound remotely familiar to you? I thought so. You’re gonna wanna read the rest of this lesson. You might also want to check out this great website that will give you a step by step system for losing your fear of approaching women in 30 days or less, click here now to see the system.

The first thing to realize is each guy has a degree of fear with approaching women. I know I always have.

But what separates you (and I) from the rest of the dudes is………..

What You Do About Your Fear.

The majority of guys let their fear control them… not just about hot girls, but about other things in their life like their job… which is exactly the reason most guys will never find that success that they really want.

1st, take a look at where your fear comes from. The real issue is found within you. It’s not with the girls.

If you are thinking about getting rejected, then that means you are making your approaches with a certain outcome in mind (I’m just speculating, but I believe if you’re like most men, your ultimate goal is getting hot girls attracted to you so that you can get them back to your place

Try this technique instead….. go up to her without expecting anything.

I’m gonna tell you about a problem I used to have. I’m kind of an introvert.

To overcome my shyness, I would force myself to chat with anyone, it didn’t matter who they were…… hot chicks, fat chicks, ugly chicks, old women, men, little kids, random people walking dogs, etc etc.

I chatted about neutral topics with everyone, nothing at all to do with picking up girls.

The end result from all of that was I became super excellent at approaching people.

But after that, I made a big mistake. I said to myself, “Because I’m so awesome at approaching people and have become a social guy, why am I wasting time chatting to anyone other than hot girls?”

Because of this, I limited the people I talked to… & my fear of talking to strange women took control of me once again. It was as if I’d never had all that practice talking up random people in the 1st place.

I finally realized it was because I was outcome-dependent. Because I had ideas like “I’m going to try to sleep with this girl” in my head….. before I’d even open my mouth to say “hello”…. and so I would totally blow out. It was terrible.

I really want you to try this out. Anytime you’re out, chat with three people, and only do it for practice. Don’t do it for real.

Because it’s just for practice, don’t limit yourself to just talking to hot girls. In general, I’ve found that old people (both men and women) and fat girls are easy to talk to.

Set up a time limit for your practice interactions, for instance, you’ll talk to the person for thirty seconds and then you’ll leave the conversation. (Say something like, “Hey, I’m on my way to meeting a buddy. Good talking with u.” And the exit and don’t make an issue of it.)

Once you’ve done your practices and feel pretty good, then you can go for hot girls. Just get it done without thinking anything sex related is going to happen. For example, if a hot girl passes by you on a walkway, just say, “Hi, I need a super quick female opinion on something.” (Then ask a question that you sincerely need a woman’s opinion on.)

Follwo this Rule: have no outcome in mind. Then it totally doesn’t make a difference if the woman is rude.

Once you reach a point where you’ve talked to lots of women, you’ll find that eventually rude replys mean absolutely nothing. You’ll have an attitude of “ha, how original… Lots of women have given me that same “oh clever” mean reply.”

I’ve been rejected tremendously, over and over again. One woman screamed “Go away!” at me before I could even say a word.

Now I just look back on all of that and chuckle.

The point is that the more you approach, the more you’ll reach a level where you notice that most people act in the same, predictable ways. It will actually make you bored rather than cause you panic or feel fear or anxiety.

Just think of it as trying to build a big house. First you put down one brick at a time and then cement it. Brick, cement. Brick, cement. It takes a bit of time, but eventually, the walls will be up (which means you’ve finished the hard part).

If you want to get psychological, you can’t really “be nervous.” You don’t “get nervous,” like it’s some kind of virus or cancer that invades your body.

All the feelings of nervousness come from within you. You have a certain mental process that you go through. You talk to yourself. (When you think thoughts like, “I would reject myself,” it sets you up to fail!) You see in your mind these women rejecting you. You feel stiffness in your body.

How can you stop thinking like this? Identify it for what it is.

Notice your negative thoughts and change them. Besides imagining, “I bet this chick is goint to be bitchy towards me because I didn’t say the perfect line”… think, “I’m glad that I’m making this approach, because if this girl rejects me, that means I’ve gotten her out of the way and I’m one step closer to becoming super good with women and finding the girl of my dreams.”

Notice where you feel tight in your body, and then let ur muscles totally relax in those areas. I feel tight in my jaw and face when I’m nervous. So when I relax my jaw and facial muscles, it fixes a lot of that tension.

We’ll end the lesson with this advice:

A) Be social for the sake of being social. Nothing else.

B) Remember that the only way to get over your anxiety is by doing the thing you fear. The more often you do it, the simpler it gets, because your attitude about the experiences will become, “Been there, done that, it’s no big deal.”

C) Recognize your bad thoughts and force yourself to replace them with good ones.

D) Relax the physical tension you have in your body when you feel nervous.

These tips were compliments of http://www.destroyapproachanxiety.com, a step by step system that will show you how to lose all your fear of approaching women in 30 days or less.

The most important step in knowing how to talk to girls is bridging a connection to induce positive emotions. If you attempt to bridge a connection through common interests or similar life experience without evoking these positive emotions you will simply be thought of as someone to talk to within the range of the time the conversation takes to expire.

When learning how to talk to girls, the important things to remember when talking to women beyond fluff talk and try to connect on a more personal level is to allow her to speak about the things she is passionate about and probe deeper into her experiences and interests and try to see things from her perspective rather than be all to eagre to nod and smile looking for an opening to talk about yourself. If she was to mention that she is passionate about her career find out what it is that makes her passionate about it? Why is it so important to her? What trials and tribulations did she encounter when starting out in her new career, and how has it changed her as a person. Once she is in the groove of talking about something she is passionate about and her emotions are heightened you can then talk about how your experiences relates to her. She will have an invested interest in you as she has already divulged so much of her own personal life to you that she will feel as if she can trust you, and trusting you makes her feel as though the two of you share something and are compatible.

Even when the conversation seems to be shallow fluff talk, there are more often that not pieces of info that are divulged that you can pick up on if you listen intently to what she says instead of brushing these gems of information off and chosing to ignore. For example a girl may say: “I grew up in Vancouver, but moved here to study/work”. Some guys would just say “Oh ok” then move onto the next point in an attempt to get as much information out of her as they can and call it a conversation – while it may be conversation, It’s hardly a deep, meaningful or memorable conversation, instead it is pointless, boring and tedious. From that piece of info she’s told you, potentially there is an opportunity there to get to know her on a much more intimate level, by asking her probing questions about how she FELT at that time, and asking her what her life in Vancouver was like, does her family still live there? Does she fly out to see them during holiday seasons? (Where you can insert “I’d love to visit Vancouver some-time” – Which gives you an opening)? (Could branch off to talk about her loved ones) You could then say how close you are to your family or how goal orientated you are as well – This shows a compatibility in values and also compliments her on a deeper level beyond her looks as you’ve told her you are as goal orientated as she is.

Getting to know someone like this puts you in the position where she is comfortable with you and will feel like “She’s known you for years”. This is certainly good when you are looking to get into a relationship. Knowing how to approach a girl gets your foot in the door, but stimulating conversation opens up opportunities for escalation.

Untill next time,

Eros

Its important for newcommers to the seduction game to realise that failure is your friend when you first start to pick up women. Often we believe that we cannot attempt to practice a skill we are currently learning untill we have acquired enough knowledge to be reassured that nothing will go wrong with our first attempt. Limiting beliefs such as this are the cause of procrastination and the wasting away of opportunities. Waiting around for a woman to approach you is completely counter-productive, being proactive about your approaches is how you get better at them. By all means read as much as you want, there’s plenty of invaluable information on how to seduce and attract women, but reading will not do anything for your real world success unless you implement the things you have learnt. The fastest way to learn how to approach a girl is to get out there and practice it, armed with the knowledge on how to do so.

For those who are getting started, and want to know how to pick up a girl without failure… I have news for you; Two big factors in the stages of knowing how to pick up a girl like a seduction guru are refining and conditioning. It’s only once you have got knocked back that you can  assess what you did wrong, refine your methods then jump back in the game. It’s like Rocky says “It’s not how many times you get knocked down, but how many times you get back up”. something along those lines anyway because let’s be honest… We can only guess what Sly is making out to say most of the time. The difference though between getting knocked down physically and getting knocked back by a chick is that one hurts you physically (does real damage) and the other only hurts the ego (you sissy). Once you become conditioned to the knockbacks you will lose the ego and naturally develop a “Take it or leave it” attitude that will tell women you aren’t desperate, and most likely have an abundance of women in your life and that you are someone who doesn’t put women on a pedestal.

Conditioning combined with refining is what makes the BIG difference. Without refining your methods you will simply make the same mistakes over and over and will become confused, desperate and insecure as to why things arent working out for you. I’m not saying to over analyse every approach that failed if the majority are a success because you cannot please all of the people, all of the time – and you don’t need to. What you’ll be able to do is put yourself in the correct state to be most likely to attract the majority of women. The way to do this of course is by having relaxed confidence and having a positive energy and an Alpha Male aura about you. Exuding this confidence and aura all begins in the mind and translates through speach and body language – “I think therefore i am”. Think like an Alpha Male and eventually you will become one. So stop the self-doubting, negative talk inside your head and reframe your way of thinking to: “I am a man, (grab your balls if you need to check) I am confident, I am funny, I am attractive” and soon picking up girls will no longer be a daunting task at which you have to nervously coax yourself into, but an enjoyable hobbie with no real reprocussions from failure.

I just want to add here as a last note that self talk should not be an “us vs them” attitude where you feel as if you are going to war whenever you go out there with the intention to meet women. It will reveal itself as false bravado and negative/annoying cockyness.

Until next time

Eros

Well, that is not really the case (aside of our recommendation on the right) because finding the best ways to impress a girl really depends on the girl herself. However, there are some things that you can do that nearly every girl likes, that will help you get the girl and keep her if you want too.

One of the key things you need to take on board is to be confident, not cocky. For whatever reason men seem to confuse the two and will often turn a girl off by being obnoxious rather than simply confident. So, what is the difference between the two? Well, a guy who is obnoxious will address a girl in a term like baby, or babe. Without even asking, an obnoxious guy will join a girl at a table and start talking, this is not confidence, this is simply being rude. Rather, a great way to show your confidence, is to look directly into a girl’s eyes as you start to approach her. Introduce yourself and ask if you can join her, dance, etc. whatever the situation dictates. Taking her by the lebow with your hand is OK, but don’t be too keen to hold her hand or put your arm around her. Guide, not pull. That is the guy who gets the girl!

If you want to be the guy who knows how to approach a girl in a way that gets results then after you have approached her and she is open to chatting to you, talk to her about her, when she asks about you share a little but don’t talk too much about yourself. Girls like guys who listen.

Try to work in a compliment about her eyes and lips. Get her to think about kissing, but don’t be crude. Look to compliment her with comments that relate specifically to her, like admire her smile or the way she laughs, that way your avoiding the obvious and cliche comments like “I think you’re hot”, and by being specific she knows you are focused on her.

Right now you may not be the guy who always gets the girl, but that can change; one simple thing to always uphold is treat woman with respect – don’t just think they are a trophy to win – do this and straight away your interest from women will increase. Women want to know that you want her, but she doesn’t want you to crudely come out and say it. Find the right words and use them and before you know it, you will get the girl.

Extract taken from full review and article at double your dating review