Never Be Afraid of Approaching Girls Again
January 7, 2010 by amabaddate
Filed under dating tips
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Remember seeing a super hella hot girl that you were just dying
to say hi to except you never did because some tiny voice in
ur head was pretty good at talking you out of it?
I sure do. It seems there is a weird alter personality we’ve got
in our brains that takes control the moment we’re about to do
something we really WANT to do.
No matter how much you want to walk over and say hi to the girl,
you feel absolutely 100% PARALYZED and can’t actually do it.
It’s as if some hidden force has taken over your body and mind.
And its holding you back!
You try to fight the force in your head, however you can’t seem to
set yourself free from this silent force.
Every single one of us has experienced this nonsense. .
At first, when I started going out, I’d find myself at a bar, seeing
everybody else have fun, I just couldn’t figure out how to be as cool
and talkative as these people were.
I didn’t have the first clue as to what to say if I walked over and actually talked
to a group of girls.
I’d be like a wallflower, watching dudes going up to girls & just start
chatting with them, it seemed they were in a secret society of men
that developed this unbelievable approaching skill. I certainly
wasn’t in that society.
Deep down inside, I knew that was totally wrong. These guys had the
exact same physical biology as I did, I mean, our brains are almost
exactly the same.
I finally came to the conclusion that the only difference between me and
the guys in this supposed secret society was that they were THINKING
DIFFERENT THOUGHTS than I was when they approched a girl.
There is nothing more to it!
They thought differently than I did, their mindset made it possible
for them to break through that invisible force and go talk to the girl
they liked.
One other key I figured out was knowing what you’re gonna say to her
BEFORE I walked up.
For a few months, I just sat back and watched how these guys worked.
The funny thing is that the lines these dudes were using weren’t
even close to being secret or special. They said things like:
“Hi there, how are you tonight?”
I couldn’t believe this crap worked with girls, but it really did.
But it wasn’t because of the words….More on this in a second.
“What have you been up to tonight?”
I mean, this isn’t any different than the 1st one. I thought
to myself at how boring these guys lines were. This was the best these
players could do?
Then it hit me……………….
I was looking for a more complicated solution than I needed.
These guys weren’t even good looking, but they still were
successful, and here I was looking for some other secret to show me how
to fix my problem.
The solution was right in front of me the whole time!!!!
Once these guys approached a girl, all they did was start chatting about
small things, after a few minutes everyone would be laughing & having
a fun time.
I was searching for this exact solution, it just took me a really
long time to get it sorted out…
I just had to go over to these girls and bring them a good time!
I know, it sounds like an over-simplification, but thats really all
these chicks want when they go out……
FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The secret was that it wasn’t at all the fun that allowed these dudes to
get over their fear of approaching girls………….
It was the BELIEF that they were going to be fun when they got there.
Holy Cow.
I know the thought in your head right now….I know this seems so easy but it really
ain’t easy.
This is exactly why I’m showing you a simple, 5 step tactic to get over your
own fear of approaching women. This is a really easy process that
any guy can use to start a conversation with a hot girl. It will
work in any situation. For a more serious and step by step explanation
on how to lose your fear of approaching women click here to see this
site, its really cool.
Lets roll?
Secret Approach Part ONE- Always Follow the 3 Second Rule……
The second you see that hot girl, you have less than 3
tiny seconds until that voice in ur mind tries to talk you out of it.
When you wait too long to approach her, that voice in your head seizes
control and you find yourself totally paralyzed.
You don’t want this invisible bastard of a man to take over……
The moment you spot a hot chick, just walk over and talk to her as well
as her friends. You’re probably saying to yourself, “I need some time to
think of something to say”. Wrong, so wrong. Whats happening is
that your mind gets caught up in the anxiety of the moment, & the fear
takes over and stops you.
So just go up to her. As long as you have a bit of confidence & a good
opening line, everything will be money. Here’s how to get them both.
SECRET APPROACH PART TWO- Control Your Body Language!
Once you take a step in the direction of the girl, push your chest
out & shoulders back. Raise ur chin so that you are almost
looking down your nose a bit. It will probably seem awkward at 1st,
but this is just because you aren’t used to doing it.
Once you adjust your posture, ur confidence totally moves up a few points.
Psychologists have proved this becasue emotional states in our mind are
directly linked to physical states in our body. Don’t believe me, try to
smile and think bad thoughts at the same time….Its really hard isn’t it?
Let’s move the eff on……
Secret APPROACH PART THREE- Setting the Limit…
I want you to feel completely safe when you approach a girl. The thought
of rejection or that you could look like a fool in front of them is
what actually causes most of your fear.
If you set a limit on how long you’re gonna talk to
the girls, you’ll be able to lessen ur anxiety level and relax.
This projects a much better “vibe”.
To do this, just make sure the 1st thing you say to them is:
“I was just about to leave, but…”
or
“I was on my way to meet a friend, but…”
All these lines do is give a girl a context for you approaching them.
Girls are always gonna wanna know the answer to the
question “Why is this guy talking to me?”
These lines also tells them that you have someplace else to go,
which causes u to be less likely to freak out when you start the talk.
Try these tactics and increase your confidence.
Next you just need……..
SECRET APPROACH PART FOUR- How To Open The Conversation…….
This opening line is absolutely priceless, I guarantee it works almost
100% of the time. It doesn’t hurt, really simple to remember and erases the
need to come up with something clever to say.
Drumroll please…….
The magic opening phrase is:
“I just had to let u know that u have a really nice…..energy about
you. My name is Bobby”
When you introduce yourself, she’ll give you her name, and then all
you must do is ask her a funny question about wherever it is
that you find yourself in.
As an example, in a Bloomingdale’s store, you could say: “Hmmmmm, I see
you came here to shop that magnetic strip off your mastercard?”
If you’re at the bar, just say, “I bet you came here to recruit
people for your church, right?”
There’s no need to be hella clever with these lines. It really isn’t
necessary.
Just get a little laugh so that you break her
tension and show her that you’re a cool guy.
Because you want to reach to the final step fast…….
SECRET APPROACH PART FIVE- Close her & make an easy exit…..
Your goal when you approach is to get the girl invested in the
interaction so that she has a bit to lose if she doesn’t talk to
you again.
This will completely prevent the flaking that a lot of girls do!
This tactic almost never fails bit you do need to practice it a bit to get
it down pat.
I believe the best way is to discover a thing you have in common
that the girl is interested in, and then promise a sort of payoff
related to it.
Here’s what it would look like. Pretend all of this happens at a Super Target
she tells you she’d getting the new “Killers” album. Just say it to her
something like:
“OMG, I totally have an awesome video of them at Lollapalooza. Its happened to me
on my phone, but erased it. Give me ur number & if we meet up again
I’ll show it to you. You would absolutely love it!”
If you have her put her number in ur phone, and call her right there so
she can add your name in her phone, this will avoid her seeing a number
she doesn’t really know later on and she’ll be more likely to answer.
Bam Bam Bam……Done and Done. If you really want to get rid of your
fear of approaching women forever, visit http://www.destroyapproachanxiety.com
Making Your Moves on a Woman
October 22, 2009 by amabaddate
Filed under dating tips
Women…can’t live without them. Since the dawn of time, it seems that men have been constantly looking and wondering about the ways to impress the ladies. It’s amazing how much effort men would go through to catch the eye of that special woman. Well, wonder no more, here are some sure fire ways on how to impress a woman you like.
Stay Clean and Presentable
Women are very concerned about hygiene. Bad boys, boy-next-door, executive looking guys, no matter how you carry yourself, the most important thing is that you are clean. This doesn’t mean that you have to stop wearing your favorite leather jacket and cutting that “longer than usual” hair. To impress a woman, you don’t need to wear a tie and polished shoes. It is enough that you’re clean, and clean means wearing well fitting clothes and sporting a good smelling odor. Be mindful of the fact that women love accessories, and like it or not, you may be considered as an accessory so you have to look the part.
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Don’t be Stingy with the Compliments
Women like to be well turned-out, which means they are very careful with what they wear, what perfume to use or what lipstick color to apply. It feels good for a woman when the result of all the hard work is noticed. You might try complimenting her perfume choice or outfit combination. Women love it when men praise their hair. Let her know you notice.
Be a Gentleman
No matter what they say about chivalry being dead, women always notice the gentlemanly types. Maybe it’s because the breed is slowly dwindling that a gentleman automatically gains attention, but the fact is women like to feel feminine. For her to feel more feminine, you might try opening doors for her, this will make her feel flattered and will accentuate to her that you are an available male.
Make her Laugh
The ability to make her laugh is something all women are in the lookout for. It’s an art and few have been gifted with this natural ability, so you might want to polish your humor a bit. Note that what you find humorous might not be the same for her so try to avoid man to man jokes. Go for ones that are light, witty and fresh.
Eye Contact
There’s something about the eyes that draw women. It’s not the shape or the color, rather it’s the emotion evoked by a good eye to eye contact. It implies that both of you understand each other. Remember when you find something amusing, smile a little, make eye contact with a friend and realize that your friend feels the same amusement you do? That’s it. It reinforces the bridge and women are always impressed by this. However, you have to time the eye contact properly; otherwise it’s just going to look like an awkward stare.
Smooth First Impression
Be very aware of first impressions and make sure that the first meeting with the woman you like cultivates a good first impression. This is usually comprised of a genuine smile and polite manners. The first impression counts very much for women. However, that doesn’t mean that you can’t redeem yourself. If you find that you have established a bad first impression with a woman you like, proceed to do the above tips to compensate for the initial gaffe. You’ll realize that women are very understanding.
