Are You Ready To Get Back Into the Dating Game?

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor, writes… …

Are you tired of wading through one date after another to find Mr. or Ms. Right? If you’re dating after divorce and it’s time to get back into the mainstream again, Then you’re probably not dating just for the fun of it. In other words, it’s not a sport or a hobby for you. Most likely you’re looking for some meaningful contact with another like-minded individual. Someone with whom you can share good conversation, fun activities and match up on a number of similar interests.

Whether you’ve just ended a long term relationship, are seeking your soulmate, or are tired of browsing the on-line dating sites, it’s time you consider dating consciously.

What if I could show you how to clarify your objectives and intentions before you wade through the muck and mire of the dating scene

Your thoughts create your reality – so wouldn’t you like to know what’s really behind those pesky thoughts that keep you going through dates like the proverbial ‘revolving door’?

How about getting to the meat of the issue, creating a fun game around dating and then get the outcome you’re after — to find a really fun and loving relationship.

Does any of this sound good to you?

Of course it does!

I’ve encapsulated my tried and true Law of Attraction approach of winning the dating game. It’s called Dating Consciously. Just for the fun of it I’ve designed a 3 Part Series on Dating Consciously designed to get you moving in the higher vibration of getting what you really want, whether that’s having fun dating or attracting a fun and loving relationship.

In the first of this Dating Consciously Series I’d like to address “The Game” portion of The Dating Game. Dating is a GAME!

First, let’s define the word GAME…

1. Game:An amusement or pastime.

2. Game: An activity where you compete involving skill, chance, or endurance on the part of two or more persons who play according to a set of rules, usually for their own amusement or for that of spectators.

The second definition sums up the way most of us feel about dating.

But, if it’s not fun, why do it?

For many, the second definition kills the joy and has you sitting on the sofa Saturday nights. Those elements are:

Competitive activity, Skill, Chance, Endurance and Rules. These are definite fun-busters!

Interestingly enough, these are the things to AVOID when dating.

FIVE Things To DO When Dating

1. Play. Though this may sound simple, I’ll bet you don’t approach dating as play. Remember when you were the innocent kid playing in the mud? How sublime was that? No place to go, nothing to prove. Just pure fun! If your date is the somber type, make it your priority to have fun. Make it your game to find fun. You don’t have to see them again if they’re no fun.

2. Laugh. A cousin of play, laughter is the most infectious way to spread joy. Before going on any date, especially a first date, remind yourself that you will deliberately find ways to feel good and laugh. You’re not fully dressed unless you wear a smile. Just smile for no reason.

3. Listen. This is such an important way to connect with your date. Deep listening is when you shut off the voices in your head and tune in to what the person across the table is saying. Granted, your critical voice may be wanting to sound off for a variety of reasons. You don’t like the way he slurps his soup. She constantly plays with her hair. Things like that can be distractions. Just notice yourself being distracted and bring yourself back. Again, you don’t have to see them again. Being present is important and will go a long way in building intimacy later on. Adopt this quality in your long term relationships by practicing now. By the way, you don’t have to use listening just in the dating world

4. Eye Contact. Don’t just make eye contact and nod your head. Practice deep listening while making eye contact. This is a wonderful display of your own generosity. And I can promise you, your generosity will come back to you.

5. Communicate. When it’s your time to talk, be clear and be heard. As you have given your attention to your date, expect the same. You haven’t interrupted him or her while he or she has been talking. If an interruption occurs, ask for the same manners. You can be polite and kind about this without turning it into a problem. Ask for what you want and chances are, you’ll get it. Feeling confident in your request takes alot of pressure off your date. You leave them firmly knowing what you prefer.

Whether you’re in your 20′s or 70′s, dating – just like life – if approached as a fun game, where there are no losers, goes much more smoothly for everyone.

First, let’s define the word GAME…

1. Game:An amusement or pastime.

2. Game: A competitive activity involving skill, chance, or endurance on the part of two or more persons who play according to a set of rules, usually for their own amusement or for that of spectators.

The second definition sums up the way most of us feel about dating.

But, if it’s not fun, something is out of alignment.

For many, the latter definition contains elements that take the FUN right out of the pursuit of dating. Those elements are:

Competitive activity, Skill, Chance, Endurance and Rules. These are definite fun-busters!

Interestingly enough, these are the things to AVOID when dating.

FIVE Dating Do’s

1. Play. Simple as it may seem, most people don’t think of dating as play. Remember when you were the innocent kid playing in the mud? How sublime was that? No place to go, nothing to prove. Just pure fun! If your date is the somber type, make it your priority to have fun. Make it your game to find fun. You don’t have to see them again if they aren’t playful.

2. Laugh. A cousin of play, laughter is very contagious. Before going on any date, especially a first date, remind yourself that you will deliberately find ways to feel good and laugh. Don’t go out without your smile. Just smile for no reason.

3. Listen. This is such an important way to connect with your date. Deep listening is when you shut off the voices in your head and tune in to what the person across the table is saying. Granted, your critical voice may be wanting to sound off for a variety of reasons. She’s got a nervous giggle. He makes noise when he eats. Things like that can be distractions. Just notice yourself being distracted and bring yourself back. Don’t worry, you never have to go on a second date. This is an important practice, however, and it is an intimacy builder. Adopt this quality in your long term relationships by practicing now. By the way, you don’t have to use listening just in the dating world

4. Eye Contact. Don’t just make eye contact and nod your head. Practice deep listening while making eye contact. This is a wonderful display of your own generosity. And I can promise you, your generosity will come back to you.

5. Communicate. When it’s your turn to share, confidently offer your ideas. Expect the same attention. Ask for the same attention, if you’re not getting it. If an interruption occurs, ask for the same manners. You can be polite and kind about this without turning it into a problem. Ask for what you want and chances are, you’ll get it. Feeling confident in your request takes alot of pressure off your date. You leave them firmly knowing what you prefer.

It doesn’t matter if your 25 or 75, dating – just like life – if approached as a fun game, where there are no losers, goes much more smoothly for everyone.

Relationship Advice for Real Men

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Coach, writes… Contrary to popular love advice that’s out there in cyberspace, asking your potential mate a series of interview questions is one sure-fire way to make a bad first impression and have her looking for the door.

Seriously, put yourself in someone else’s shoes, if they asked you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that put YOU at ease? I don’t think so. The relationship advice you get from a woman’s point of view, may not work from a man’s perspective. From a man’s point of view, a real woman is a woman who can communicate about what she wants and how she feels.

It’s more commonplace these days for a real man to speak her mind and communicate openly from his heart. The ability to openly communicate is a valuable trait and a turn on for most women.

Whether you’re looking for casual dating or your life partner, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Love Advice for Men the most important thing to know is what you want.

1. Knowing What You Want

What qualities in your date or mate are you looking for? Get clear about what those traits are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet her. Is he funny, does he think you’re funny? Is it important to you that she likes sports? Is he interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?

When you know what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? What are the elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re not afraid to get clear and be straight about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when you’ve encountered Ms. Right.

2. Be Flexible

When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you remain open more possibility and how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m suggesting that you stay curious about ‘what if he’s even better than I can imagine?’ Be open to getting more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.

3. Let Go of the HOW

When you let go of the “way it’s supposed to happen” you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about “HOW it supposed to be,” you limit yourself. You’re also resisting what you want, which hinders your magnetic attraction.

4. “BE” the Person You’d Like to Meet

That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, “are you anything like the person you’d like to meet”? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Become like the person you want to meet. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.

When you’re in the seeking mode, it’s much easier to find them when you are really clear on you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.

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